I’m sure that we’ve all been there.
You talk to someone for a while, have a great few months, then one day you just stop talking. Fewer of us are in long-term, committed relationships than any generation. I’m sure you’re thinking, “You’re nuts. There’s a lot of people in my school who have been dating for years.” While that might be true, but according to Pew Research Center, 59% of adults ages 18-29 were married in 1960, while only 20% were married in 2011.
Why is it so hard for our generation, the millennials, to commit to an actual relationship?
Are we scared of commitment? Do we just want casual sex? What’s the problem here?
Well, I’ll tell you my take on why I believe that modern-day relationships are f***** up.
The big problem here is that we don’t know where to meet people. Sure there’s social media and of course Tinder, but only about 1/3 of people have actually gone on a date with someone they met online. Can you blame them? Nobody is who they say they are online. But why do we feel the need to talk to 7 different people at a time instead of learning about 1 person at a time? Facetime has replaced actual dates and texting has replaced phone calls. There’s no better feeling than being loved, but why are we standing around waiting for our relationships to be validated by having 200 likes on a picture?
Why are we all so afraid of coming off as “clingy” or too forward? We all remember growing up and watching TV shows where the guy goes to pick up a girl for their first date he brings her flowers. Now, we just get the “here” text. Holding hands and kissing is out of the norm these days. I’ve been on a few dates recently but most of them felt like I was just hanging out with a friend.
We’ve started putting our needs before others just because that’s how we were raised. We were born in a culture where we taught that you can be happy on your own without needing satisfaction from others, especially a partner.
Date nights are a thing of the past and going to parties with each other is the thing to do every Friday and Saturday night.
We’re at a loss of traditional values like commitment and loyalty. This generation is killing the relationships.
But I’m not ready to give up just yet.