An Open Letter To The Guy Who Loves Me Next

We probably haven’t met yet, but I wish you could read this so you know what you’re getting yourself in to. I have been heart-broken by the wrong guys, and I want this time to be different. I’m sure we will meet soon and eventually fall in love. I want to prepare you for what’s to come, I’m sure that would make this falling in love thing a lot easier. I’m excited to take on a new adventure with you and work through ups and downs – I hope you feel the same way.

 

1. I’M NOT PERFECT AND I WILL MAKE MISTAKES

I have many flaws and I’ll probably do things that will annoy the crap out of you or make you mad. You aren’t perfect either but I’ll apologize when I mess up, and I hope you will too.

2. I’LL APOLOGIZE FOR NO REASON

My constant apologies are a side effect of emotional abuse I suffered from when I was young. Don’t tell me to stop apologizing so much. Just bear with me as it’s hard for me to always feel like I did something wrong.

3. WE’LL FIGHT AND THAT’S OKAY

I’m not exactly someone who keeps her feelings to herself. If you piss me off, I’ll let you know. We’re gonna fight like any other relationship, but just give me some time to cool off. We’ll talk and figure out how to fix it.

4. IF YOU CHEAT, IT’S OVER

I’ve been cheated on way too many times and I’m not putting up with it anymore. If you cheat our relationship is over, even if it’s just a little kiss. I will not give you a second chance, no matter what excuse you give me.

5. I’LL BE NOTHING BUT FAITHFUL TO YOU

You’ll never have to worry about me cheating on you. If I’m committed it’s with my whole heart. I’ll always be about you. I expect the same from you.

6. I’M NOT THE EASIEST TO LOVE

I’m nothing short of a mess. I always have been. It takes a lot of patience and a really good sense of humor. Sometimes you’ll wonder why you’re with me. I’ll do my best to give you plenty of reasons and memories to answer that question for you.

7. I WON’T BE AROUND 24/7

I love you and our relationship but sometimes I’ll need time to myself. This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy having you around. I just need alone time now and then.

8. I’M ALWAYS JOKING AROUND, DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL

Over the years I have mastered the art of sarcasm. If it’s ever too much, just let me know and I’ll do my best to try to tone it down. Did I mention you need a good sense of humor to be with me?

9. YOU’LL SEE ME AT MY BEST, YOU’LL SEE ME AT MY WORST

I’m always going to try give you nothing but my best, but that’s not exactly what you’ll get. You’ll see me vomiting after a crazy night out and being a real bitch when it’s that time of the month. Try and love both sides of me.

10. WE WON’T LIKE THE SAME THINGS

I know you will want me to watch sports with you, but I won’t. We’ll like some of the same things and I’ll gladly do those things with you. As for the rest goes, you’ll have to do them on your own or with your friends. I have my own interests and I’m sure you wont like some of those too.

11. MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT

They we’re there for me before I even knew you. Don’t make me choose between you or them, you won’t like the outcome. My friends might threaten to beat you up if you break my heart, but they’re just looking out for me.

12. I’LL COMPROMISE, TO A POINT

I know relationships require a lot of compromises, but I won’t compromise on everything. If you ask me to sleep on the other side of the bed I might think about it. Ask me to give up something I love and we’ll have a problem.

13. GIVE ME TIME TO LET DOWN MY WALLS

I’m not very trusting at first due to my past. Have some patience, I’ll get there. I want to make sure you’re worthy of everything that I have to offer you. It’s nothing against you, it’s just who I am.

14. ALL I WANT FROM YOU IS LOVE, RESPECT AND HONESTY

I’m really not asking for much. I just want you to be as in love with me as I am with you. I expect you to be nothing but respectful to not only me, but friends and family. Honesty is important to me, just don’t lie. We won’t be able to have a functioning relationship if any of this is missing.

15. IF ANY OF THE ABOVE IS AN ISSUE, DON’T WASTE MY TIME

I’d rather you tell me how you feel now than in 3 years when I’ve invested that much time into you. Don’t lead me on. It’ll hurt the both of us the longer we drag it out.

I hope this helps you understand what exactly you’re getting in to. I look forward to falling in love with you and making memories we’ll never forget.

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