Dear New Girl,
I’m sure you’re not expecting to read one of these, and honestly, I never thought I’d write one to you. But since you have begun to show your face on his social media, especially taking over his snapchat and snapping me some not so nice things, I thought this would be a good time. I’m not about to be a stereotypical ex-girlfriend and tell you all the negative things about him, even though I should..
I don’t know who you are and I don’t know if I’ve ever met you. He’s never really been an open person, but there’s no doubt in my mind that you know of me and the relationship we shared for nearly 4 years. He may have said some rude and cruel things about that may or may not be true. But I know that you have the potential to love him so much more than I tried so hard to do.
Tell him you love him and miss him every chance you get. And don’t say it just to say it, actually mean it. Love him every second of every day, with your whole entire heart. He has a very soft heart and he’ll appreciate it every time you say it first. He will tell you that he loves you more, and sometimes it’s just easier to let him win. When you haven’t seen him in a while, let him know that you miss him and that you’re thinking of him. It’s the small things that mean the most to him. He’s going to tell you that you look beautiful even when you think you look like a train wreck. He will try to do cute things for you and you’ll smile and laugh, he’ll love every second of it. He will spoil you, whether you want him to or not. Not a day will go by that he won’t remind you of how much you mean to him. He will give you 110 percent and he expects nothing less in return. Be his biggest supporter and always give him confidence boosts. His job can and will stress him out. He loves his job and loves to talk about it. Be there for him, and listen to him.
If you haven’t met his family and you’re nervous about it, don’t be. His family is the most important thing in his life and if he shares that with you than he must like you a lot. His mom will call you beautiful and be the biggest supporter of your relationship. His little sister will look up to you so you need be a good role model for her. You will learn that his uncle is the most giving and caring man you will ever meet. His grandma likes to cook and will have no problem cooking you dinner, she will know what you like and try to avoid your dislikes. You’ll never leave her house hungry. Theses people mean more to him than you can fathom. After all, they shaped him into the great man that he is today.
I have no doubt in my mind that you are going to be the girl to him that I tried so hard to be. You are beautiful and smart. You share the same love for many different things. You’ve become such a big part of his life, don’t take that for granted like I did. When he holds you tight, hold him tighter. When he smiles at you, smile back. When he tells you a joke, laugh, even if it was the lamest joke you’ve ever heard. When it gets tough don’t just leave, work it out, he’s more than worth it. Feel free to cry in front of him, he won’t laugh or judge you, he will hold you until you’re okay again.
Take in the little things. Make memories that will last a lifetime and soak it all in. I know you will take care of him and make him a better version of himself. I wish you nothing but the best. I wish you joy and happiness. I wish you nothing but love. I wish you laughs and happy tears and laughs that become tears.
His Old Girl